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Why Taking Care of Your Physical Health is Important—And Attractive

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Why Taking Care of Your Physical Health is Important—And Attractive
As a millionaire matchmaker, one of my greatest tasks lies in building up the physical shell of people who haven’t taken the best physical care of themselves so that they’re attractive to potential mates. This isn’t about vanity, but more about projecting—and being—the vibrant, healthy, well-balanced partner you want to attract. We hear this all the time, especially as women: “you need to take better care of yourself.” Now this can mean a variety of things depending on who saying it, and is quite often—and rightly—dismissed as nonsense or busy-bodying. From your mom, this kind of comment might mean you look or seem tired or worn down. From a friend or potential partner (or matchmaker!), it can mean that an aspect of your (lacking) physical health isn’t appealing or is alarming to them. Believe it or not, both responses can be valid feedback. 

We live in a world where we can be sensitive to the smallest triggers and slights; a sensitivity that is often magnified through social media to the point of being distorted and disproportionate to its original meaning, too. But returning to the intent behind the comment, and under the assumption that the speaker has your best interests at heart, then there are things that are genuine red flags about our health, wellness, or even appearance (gasp) that may appear unhealthy to the person in question: our sleeping habits, our dietary habits, even our weight. And their “calling it out” isn’t necessarily worth a knee-jerk reaction or defensiveness on your part. 

Now why is it important what anyone thinks about us? Fundamentally, we should strive to be happy with ourselves. Fundamentally, we should do the best we can with the tools available in life to ensure our health and longevity. In the age of body positivity, we can find advocates for every type of body, mindset and lifestyle. But that doesn’t mean that these are the right viewpoints for us, specifically. Neither does that mean that these viewpoints are healthy or coming from people with peaceful, sound minds. There’s a significant difference between being voluptuous—i.e. many sizes above the 3s, 4s, 5s of the world, but still active and eating well—and being morbidly obese and completely sedentary. A naturally curvy woman was made that way, not created through indulgence, excess or poor choices. There’s a significant difference between having a rich social life and drinking each and every night and sharing your blackout-exploits all over Instagram. It’s about balance, and your closest friends and loved ones are often very good judges of the state of balance in you life—if not their own! 

Again, we should always strive to do the best we can with the tools life gives us. Which brings us back to the matter of receiving heartfelt feedback and social cues from others who care for us. We are social creatures and we are built to receive and give information to one another. Sometimes the information isn’t the kind of feedback that we want to hear, though it is exactly the feedback that we need to hear so that we can make better choices for our health and wellbeing. 
 
As always, I’m here if you need a one-on-one coach in these matters. I’ve been helping people completely transform their bodies and minds for over twenty years now. 
 
—Aviva xoxo