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Toronto Matchmaker and Relationship Coach’s Lessons in Love: Sex Vs. Intimacy Vs. Eroticism

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Toronto Matchmaker and Relationship Coach’s Lessons in Love: Sex Vs. Intimacy Vs. Eroticism

Whether you’re single, dating, married, or divorced and playing the field, you may find yourself with questions about human connections and contact. Since we’re all adults here, there’s no need to be shy when it comes to having tasteful discussions over what happens behind “closed doors”. While I’m not going to get into the mechanics of it all—I hope you’ve figured that out by now!—I wanted to discuss a topic of confusion that frequently comes up in my coaching sessions: sex, intimacy, and eroticism and the differences between each. 


First off, I’m going to divide each of these three topics into a separate blog. Then we’ll take a look at the subjects together, in a 4th blog, and see how they all interact. 


Let’s start with the topic that seems the most obvious to unravel: SEX. Although, it’s not really obvious since sex—aside from the raw act—requires the right mindset, education, and attention to detail to get it “right”. What does right mean? Well, it means satisfaction for both you and your partner. After all, if all you’re looking for is to please yourself, it’s not as if you need another person to accomplish that!


The other mental, spiritual, and educational components of sex are essential because lovemaking is one of the most intimate experiences two people can share. Lovemaking has a lasting effect on the people who partake in it and can heal emotional scars and wounds as easily as making them. 


When we are naked with another, we are literally defenseless and exposed. We must always act with the respect and kindness expected with that level of trust. True love, and lovemaking, is a divine experience, and one of the closest unions we can share. 


So don’t mess it up! And don’t stress either. Allow your sexual energy to flow and inhibitions to release. Remember: this person has trusted you with their most vulnerable self. You have nothing to fear in such a sacred space. 


For more of this kind of in-depth coaching, check out my individualized life lessons, coming live (to video) soon. And always remember: I’m here to help you find the tools to build a better, happier, more confident you. All you have to do is reach out and ask. 


Toronto's millionaire matchmaker, signing off for now,

—Aviva xoxo